{"id":1230,"date":"2022-08-29T00:01:06","date_gmt":"2022-08-28T23:01:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/?p=1230"},"modified":"2022-08-29T00:31:27","modified_gmt":"2022-08-28T23:31:27","slug":"conversaciones-incomodas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/2022\/08\/29\/conversaciones-incomodas\/","title":{"rendered":"Uncomfortable conversations"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I recently read somewhere (sorry, I don\u00b4t remember where exactly) that <strong>in order to keep healthy relationships, you need to have uncomfortable conversations every once in a while<\/strong>. This applies to all kinds of relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It makes sense, right? Disagreements and conflict are inherent to human beings, and it\u00b4s the way we manage them that makes the difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But, what happens when you\u00b4re so afraid of conflict that you try to avoid it at all costs?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hello, my name is Bea, and I\u00b4m a <em>conflict avoider<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/pexels-photo-7516578.jpeg?ssl=1\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"676\" height=\"450\" data-attachment-id=\"1229\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/pexels-photo-7516578\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/pexels-photo-7516578.jpeg?fit=1880%2C1253&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1880,1253\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-title=\"crop deaf mute people talking in winter park\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/pexels-photo-7516578.jpeg?fit=676%2C450&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/pexels-photo-7516578.jpeg?resize=676450&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"Two people having a conversation in the street, only their hands and arms are visible, their faces are not shown\" class=\"wp-image-1229\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 676px) 100vw, 676px\" data-srcset=\"\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u00b4ve spent many years tiptoeing through life in order not to bother anyone, not to create conflict. Many years acting as if certain problems did not exist, in the hope that they would sort themselves out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, you can imagine what happens, right? They DON\u00b4T sort themselves out, even though sometimes it looks like they do. To really solve a problem you have to bring it out into the light, you have to talk about it, otherwise the discomfort stays there, under the surface, until the day it inevitably comes out again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, what can we do then? Three things come to mind:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Accept conflict as something natural<\/strong>: we each have our own needs, opinions and ways to do things, which sometimes clash with those of other people.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Not take it personally<\/strong>: one thing that helps a lot is focusing on the problem itself, instead of what we perceive that the other person \u201cis doing to us\u201d.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Find a good way to communicate<\/strong>, so that we can convey our needs and wants to the other person, and listen to theirs, in a respectful and non-violent way.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When my daughters were small, I used to play for them a song in Spanish by Miliki, the lyrics translate to something like \u201cTalking is how people understand each other, and that way everything works better\u2026\u201d Nowadays I still sing it to them sometimes, and also to myself, as a reminder that none of us are mind readers, and that issues need to be talked about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And you? Do you also avoid conflict? What uncomfortable conversation have you been trying to avoid? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hace poco le\u00ed en alg\u00fan sitio (perd\u00f3n pero ya no recuerdo d\u00f3nde) que para tener relaciones sanas es necesario tener de vez en cuando conversaciones inc\u00f3modas. Esto se aplica a todo tipo de relaciones. Tiene sentido, \u00bfverdad? Los desacuerdos y el conflicto son inherentes al ser humano, y es nuestra forma de gestionarlos lo que &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/2022\/08\/29\/conversaciones-incomodas\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Uncomfortable conversations<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":3116429,"featured_media":1229,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","advanced_seo_description":"BinaryWords . 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