{"id":341,"date":"2021-08-15T18:20:17","date_gmt":"2021-08-15T17:20:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/?p=341"},"modified":"2023-08-14T00:18:54","modified_gmt":"2023-08-13T23:18:54","slug":"opcional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/2021\/08\/15\/opcional\/","title":{"rendered":"Optional"},"content":{"rendered":"

A conversation that plays out quite often in our house, and one that you can probably relate to, is negotiating in a given moment what\u00b4s mandatory and what\u00b4s optional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My daughter Alicia is the expert in all this, though her sisters are not far behind. When I ask her to do something she\u00b4s not convinced about, Alicia asks: \u201cdo I have to?\u201d. And my answer, most of the time, is \u201cyes\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But not always. So she\u00b4s right to ask :-)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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In fact, this is something that most of us should ask (ourselves) more often: this thing I have in front of me, this thing \u201cI have to do\u201d, do I really have to do it? \u00bfAccording to whom? What happens if I don\u00b4t do it, or if I do it differently?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Clearly, the answer can be a yes, it needs to be done, and it may still be yes most times, but it may also surprise us and end up being a no more often than we thought. Or we could come up with another alternative, an intermediate solution that\u00b4s even better than the previous one\u2026 By asking the question we allow ourselves to see the options, and we have more ability to choose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, whatever we decide, we have to be responsible and fully accept the consequences. But the key point is that we have options, even if we don\u00b4t always see them, even if we don\u00b4t always like them. But we do have options. And once we realize this, we can choose whatever we see fit, and \u201cI have to\u2026\u201d becomes \u201cI choose\u2026\u201d, and the burden becomes a little lighter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are a couple of quotes that I love on this topic, as they go a step further, inviting us to choose how to relate to what is happening in our life:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.<\/p>Buddha<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

This one I heard for the first time in a yoga class (thanks Carsun!), and felt it especially close when giving birth to my girls, before realizing that it can really be applied to everything in life, not only physical pain. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this other one I only heard recently; it seems to me that it\u00b4s very fitting to the times we\u00b4re now living:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.<\/p>John C. Maxwell<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Now you choose!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Una conversaci\u00f3n que se repite bastante a menudo en nuestra casa, y que seguro que os suena, es el negociar en un momento dado qu\u00e9 es obligatorio y qu\u00e9 es opcional. La especialista en esto es mi hija Alicia, aunque sus hermanas no se le quedan atr\u00e1s. Cuando le pido algo que no le convence, … Continue reading Optional<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":3116429,"featured_media":351,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","advanced_seo_description":"Binarywords - Opcional \/ Optional","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"Opcional \/ Optional","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[4990],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-341","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-inspiracion-inspiration","fallback-thumbnail"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/s3DPtR-opcional","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":9688,"url":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/2026\/09\/14\/ventanas-al-mundo\/","url_meta":{"origin":341,"position":0},"title":"Windows to the world","author":"binarybea","date":"14\/09\/2026","format":false,"excerpt":"Esta semana o\u00ed un comentario en la radio que me pareci\u00f3 curioso: dec\u00edan algo as\u00ed como que muchos j\u00f3venes de hoy en d\u00eda consideran que se puede saber m\u00e1s de c\u00f3mo es realmente una persona por los libros que posee que por su perfil en redes sociales. \u00bfT\u00fa qu\u00e9 opinas?\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Personal"","block_context":{"text":"Personal","link":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/category\/diario-journal\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/IMG_20260822_195817-e1789341732906.jpg?fit=1200%2C756&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/IMG_20260822_195817-e1789341732906.jpg?fit=1200%2C756&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/IMG_20260822_195817-e1789341732906.jpg?fit=1200%2C756&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/IMG_20260822_195817-e1789341732906.jpg?fit=1200%2C756&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/binarywords.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/IMG_20260822_195817-e1789341732906.jpg?fit=1200%2C756&ssl=1&resize=1050%2C600 3x"},"classes":[]},{"id":9635,"url":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/2026\/08\/31\/reto-de-30-dias\/","url_meta":{"origin":341,"position":1},"title":"30-day challenge","author":"binarybea","date":"31\/08\/2026","format":false,"excerpt":"\u00bfQu\u00e9 opinas de los retos de 30 d\u00edas? \u00bfAlguna vez has hecho alguno? 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