{"id":9297,"date":"2026-06-15T02:59:06","date_gmt":"2026-06-15T01:59:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/?p=9297"},"modified":"2026-06-15T02:59:06","modified_gmt":"2026-06-15T01:59:06","slug":"poder-sin-excusas-y-sin-culpa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/binarywords.com\/en\/2026\/06\/15\/poder-sin-excusas-y-sin-culpa\/","title":{"rendered":"Power without excuses (and guilt-free)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Last week, during an Enneagram class, we had a really interesting conversation about the relationship each of us has with the concept of power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What thoughts cross your mind when you hear the word \"power\"?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We often associate it with negative ideas, don\u00b4t we? Oppression, abusiveness, forcing others to obey... And as a result, we may develop the belief that power is something bad, something we shouldn\u00b4t have, or seek<\/strong>.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it doesn\u00b4t have to be like that.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The truth is, power is just the capacity to produce a result<\/strong> (thanks Mario for that definition), that is, to move things forward the way we want.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thankfully, we all have the power to achieven things in life<\/strong>, even though sometimes we don\u00b4t know how to do it, or where to begin. We have the power to change, and by changing ourselves, we change our circumstances and influence our environment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\""Full<\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Artefact seen at the S. S. Nomadic steam ship, next to the Titanic museum in Belfast. It was used to control the amount of power used to make the ship move forward or turn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, this is not something that happens magically or overnight: changing requires work and conscious effort; it requires time, paatience and perseverance<\/strong>. And above all, it requires something that we may find quite difficult: leaving all excuses aside and taking charge of our life, once and for all<\/strong>.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today I was reminded of a phrase that says: \"what you\u00b4re not changing, you\u00b4re choosing\" (thanks, Orla! According to Google, this quote is by Laurie Buchanan). A bit radical, isn\u00b4t it? But very true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even more radical is this other idea by Erica Jong, from which I was familiar with the last sentence, but not the whole paragraph:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one to blame! That was why most people led lives they hated, with people they hated. How wonderful to have someone to blame! How wonderful to live with one's nemesis! You may be miserable, but you feel forever in the right. You may be fragmented, but you feel absolved of all the blame for it. Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oh, how easy it is for us sometimes to blame others, or life, for our circumstances, without acknowledging how we contributed to creating that situation<\/strong>. The good news is that, once we break the habit of blaming others, we also break the habit of feeling at their mercy, and we recover the power over our own life<\/strong>even though it initially feels uncomfortable. This is also a task that requires effort and conscious intention, and more importantly, a lot of self-compassion; for once we realise how we got to the point where we are ,and we stop blaming others for it, what we often do is blame ourselves<\/strong>. And that, instead of helping us, can be paralysing and bring us down even more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, as a good friend once said to me (thanks, Hern\u00e1n): don\u00b4t look at it in terms of blame and guilt, but in terms of responsibility<\/strong>. You came this far by doing your best with the information and resources that you had at each moment. Now that you know a little bit more, it\u00b4s up to you to make better decisions and acquire better resources that take you (or at least get you closer) to the results you want. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

the moment you accept total responsibility for everything in your life
is the moment you claim the power
to change anything in your life.<\/p>Hal Elrod<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Now that you know it, are you willing to start using your power, without excuses and leaving guilt to one side? <\/strong>If you\u00b4d like to acquire resources that help you to achieve what you\u00b4re looking for, have a look at my services page<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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La semana pasada, durante una clase de eneagrama, surgi\u00f3 una conversaci\u00f3n muy interesante sobre c\u00f3mo nos relacionamos cada uno con el concepto de poder. \u00bfQu\u00e9 se te pasa a ti por la cabeza cuando oyes la palabra \u00abpoder\u00bb? A menudo la asociamos con ideas negativas, \u00bfverdad? 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