Celebrations

This weekend, all over the world, the Muslim community has celebrated the feast of Eid al-Fitr: the end of the month of Ramadan and its corresponding fasting practice. To all of you celebrating, عيد مبارك (I hope Google Translate got it right; it should say Eid Mubarak, which is the customary greeting for this occasion).

Also, in Ireland, today was Mother´s Day (the fourth Sunday in Lent), so here at home we´ve had our own little celebration: homemade crepes for breakfast, a game of Catan and homemade pizza for dinner. (Thanks a million, girls! My best present ever is spending time with you three.)

(Homemade heart-shaped pizza made by my daughter Eva. Amazing, right? She´s brilliant at this.)

What would life be without celebrations? Each nation, culture, religion, and even each family has its own celebrations, and even if they look different from the outside, below the surface it´s the same idea: as human beings, every now and then we need to take a break, get together with our loved ones and enjoy and be merry, often as a reward after challenging or difficult times.

So, similarly to how the feast of Eid takes place at the end of Ramadan, the Christian Easter takes place at the end of Lent, and is in turn a celebration of spring and the blossoming of new life after the winter, same as the Hindu festival of Holi, which took place a couple of weeks ago... And so it goes, on and on.

Each celebration brings its own traditions, which connect us more deeply to our history and our people. Having said that, let´s keep in mind that times change: life evolves, and we evolve with it. That´s why I believe we should feel at liberty to choose, adapt and create traditions and celebrations according to our circumstances and values. Allow ourselves to honour our roots and at the same time extend our wings.

What are you looking forward to celebrating? And how are you planning to do it?

Starting and finishing

OK, so I´m back home, getting back to the routine (if there ever was one). As I imagined, the week-long work trip was well worth it, both professionally and personally.

Photo of several trees with purple leaves in late evening lght

(Photo of some lovely trees just outside the office I visited).

Now, it´s time for me to resume a few other things I´m doing that I want to bring to a close. And while thinking about that, I remembered this quote:

Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task.

William James

Have you ever experienced that feeling of uneasiness when leaving tasks unfinished? Or maybe it was easier for you to notice the opposite: how good it feels to finally get them done. I read somewhere that each unfinished task we have takes away a small portion of our mental energy, as our brain is constantly remembering that it needs to finish it... Using the analogy of a computer or a mobile phone, it´s as if we had an open browser window for each pending task, consuming resources unnecessarily and slowing down the whole system.

In a way, it´s like an extended version of multitasking, which, as we already know, doesn´t really work.

And they don´t have to be big things, or even important ones. For example, today, I realized again that I have several unfinished books (due to reasons that are not relevant right now); I challenged myself to finish one of them (even if it was the shortest one), and I felt great when I accomplished that. Our unconscious mind doesn´t differentiate between big or small, important or trivial: each task we add to the list is one more burden, and each task we can tick off, an accomplishment.

By the way, you may be wondering: why do I have several unfinished books? Well, obviously, because I started reading them and never came around to finishing them, which brings me to the proposal I´d like to share with you today:

Stop starting, and start finishing.

I learned this phrase from an Agile coach a few years ago (thanks, Chris!). It´s a basic principle in certain work methodologies like Lean and Kanban, and it also works very well for Scrum (if you´re getting confused by all these strange words, don´t worry; you don´t need them to understand the idea).

The idea is very simple, yet very powerful: limiting the amount of work in progress at any given moment, so that you can focus your energy better and finish tasks more efficiently.

As I said, it´s a very simple idea; what´s not so simple is putting it into practice, among other reasons, because the motivation that often pushes us to get something started tends to dissipate afterwards and is no longer enough... (I´ll tell you more about motivation in a future article).

This is not a new idea; there´s a popular saying in Spanish that reads "quien mucho abarca, poco aprieta" ("if you hold on to too much, you lose your grip"), and in English we can convey a similar idea with "don´t spread yourself too thin".

What about you? Are there many things you have started and not finished? What can you tick off today so that your list gets lighter?

Memento mori, memento vivere

This year I'm wishing you a happy St. Patrick's day from the boarding gate of a random airport, while travelling for work.

It's been a bit of a weird week, and the idea from the title keeps going around in my head since Friday. I know this doesn't sound like much of a celebration, but in a certain way it is, a celebration of life... It all depends, as usual, on perspective.

Photo of one of the High Crosses in Clonmacnoise, Ireland

(This is one of the famous Celtic high crosses at Clonmacnoise monastic site, in county Offaly, Ireland).

The first half of the quote is the most widely known: memento mori, "remember you will die". At first sight, the idea may seem a bit depressing (it reminds me of "dust you are, and to dust you shall return", which is typically said on Ash Wednesday as part of the Christian tradition). But for the ancient Greeks, its meaning referred to living life while we still have it (as in the famous quote carpe diem, "seize the day"). 

This thought that everything can come to an end any day (or rather, that we ourselves can come to an end) gives us perspective; it encourages us to appreciate the life we have and live it more intentionally, with more intensity. And not only in the sense of enjoying the present, as per the Epicurean teachings (although that's part of it too), but also in the sense of "living a good life" according to the Stoic philosophy, that is, doing something worthy with your life.

And that's where the second half of the quote comes into play: memento vivere, "remember to live". Because the reality is that we have no Idea when life is going to be over for us; we may die tomorrow, but we may not, and if so, we have a whole life ahead of us to do wonderful things and leave our legacy in this world.

The key here, at least in my view, is finding a way to be able to enjoy the present moment while at the same time keeping good habits that will allow us to live many years with a good quality of life, so that we continue to have energy to do the things that make us feel fulfilled: hobbies, projects, time with our loved ones...

What about you? Which side do you remember mote often, the fact that you're going to die, or the fact that you can, and should, live? In what specific ways can you make the most of this opportunity that life is giving you today? 

Birthday

March 10th 2025, and it´s my turn to blow 47 candles.

Photo of a "happy birthday" candle

In previous years, I´ve made it all a bit more mysterious, writing my age in binary code (101111), hexadecimal (0x2F) or even Roman numerals (XLVII).

Anything in order not to say it too directly, but not because I particularly care about my age, that doesn´t bother me (or at least, that´s what I´m saying now; we´ll see when I get to 50...)

In reality, what happens is that I have mixed feelings regarding my birthday. On the one hand, there's my aversion to being the centre of attention, which prevents me from reminding anyone about my birthday as it´s coming up; then, on the other hand, there´s always this hope that people will remember to say happy birthday to me, and probably, deep down, the conviction that "they should remember". For those with Enneagram knowledge, any similarities with a preserving type 1 are pure coincidence 😉

Anyway, there´s no way I can escape this year; pretty much everyone knows already. So, from the bottom of my heart, thanks a million for your birthday wishes, bring on another year. Big hug.

Slowly but surely

I think I´ve mentioned this before: I´ve been going through a really busy period at work, and this past week, to be honest, has been more of the same. Sometimes I get frustrated, because I see my day (or my week, or my month) flying past, and I find it difficult to carve out time and energy to make progress on my personal projects. Does this sound familiar?

I feel like I'm living in this kind of paradox where I´m simultaneously moving very fast and very slow: running at full speed in my day-to-day tasks, "playing Tetris with my calendar", like I told a colleague of mine the other day, and being super slow with other tasks I would like to dedicate more "bandwidth" to.

Luckily, the Universe keeps sending me clues and reminders every now and then, for example in the shape of quotes I come across during the week, which I can share with you all and reflect on here.

The first quote talks about going fast; I read it in English, and I loved it. The Spanish translation I found sounded a bit strange to me, so I wrote my own version, I hope it's easy to understand:

Beware the barrenness of a busy life.

Socrates

In a society where "being super busy" is seen as something positive, almost a sign of status, we sometimes forget that rushing not only leaves us physically and mentally exhausted, it also forces us to stay superficial. In order to be able to do a good job at a task requiring certain depth (reflection, creativity, focus...) we need to slow down, cut down the number of tasks and dedicate longer periods of time to them, without distractions. If we link this to the Eisenhower matrix we touched on a few weeks ago, the key is to leave more space for strategic tasks (important but not urgent) that help us to feel fulfilled and make progress towards our goals (starting with proper self-care), instead of spending so much time "putting out fires" (paying attention to whatever urgent things happen to be in front of us, whether they're important or not).

The second quote talks about going slowly, and you can say it louder, but not clearer:

Be not afraid of going slowly, be afraid only of standing still.

Chines proverb

We live in a society when immediacy rules. We're used to being able to get everything quickly, and we don't like waiting, so we have less and less patience, which can be problematic when it comes to setting medium/long term goals and working towards them. It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves with others who have already achieved it, or who are further along the same path.

Here's where I think it's important to remember the fable of the tortoise and the hare, which shows us how consistency and perseverance are much more important than speed. Moreover, depending on the type of "race" (or, now that I think about it, probably in all of them), crossing the finish line too soon is not such a good idea, because the learning and growth happen along the way, as one gets more and more experience.

So it´s OK to go slowly, it may even be best option. But what about standing still? My interpretation is that it´s a warning for us not to rest on our laurels, as the hare did in the story. Because when we stop walking towards where we want to go, we stagnate, we stop learning, and even if it seems like we´re staying in the same place, the reality is that we´re lagging behind.

(Photo of a street tribute to the hare and the tortoise from Aesop´s famous fable; I stumbled upon them while walking around in Boston years ago)

So, what about you? Do you feel a bit like a hare at the moment? Or maybe a tortoise?